Ten (10) Years, 10 Lessons (as an OFW)

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UAE Life in 10 (Pictures from L-R ) 2008: My first night in Abu Dhabi. Me and Ate Ann – she’s the cousin who brought me in UAE. 2010 – Darrelle & I in my first CFC-FFL Family Day. Me and my ETSDC cap (my first company). 2012 – Me in the Sales & Marketing Dept. of ETSDC. 2011 – With my first sets of Households and Sisters in Christ (SFL) Ate Amie, Ate Ash & Ate Lou. 2011 – the first SFL brothers and sisters representatives from Abu Dhabi – Empowered Conference in Sharjah. 2015 – ADNOC-NDC UAE National Day celebration. 2017 – Ate Amie’s birthday with the Marvels.

 

Ten (10) Years, 10 Lessons as an OFW

Disclaimer: All opinions are personal and I don’t generalize all. It’s what I learned and that I notice them too often that it definitely left a mark into this OFW life.

This is my first passport bucketlist : To have my first passport stamped before it expires. lol 🤣🤣🤣

 

So, I took my passport in 2005 without any intention of an international travel… only to have one solid ID on my belt whenever a government company would require. But at the back on my mind, I told myself – I want it stamped before it expires. Bucket-list checked! 

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This is another post to celebrate my 10 years in the UAE and as an OFW –  I’d like to share the ten (10) of the many lessons learned in my first decade as an Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW)

Related: Abu Dhabi 30 Places to visit. (Anniversary month post)

 

Here’s my lesson learned. “10 for 10”.

 

One: Homesickness is Real

On my very first month right after arriving Abu Dhabi UAE in September 2008, I did encounter my first homesick moment. Didn’t expect that its real. I thought I was okay and that its only a word. But – – – bang! I found myself crying in my sleep. Today, it’s been a decade and some episodes of such moment still find me.  A weak point for all OFWs indeed. #TheresNoPlaceLikeHome #HomeIsHome

 

 

Two: OFW Life Looks Nice but it’s NOT 

Social Media POST vs. REALITY

Most of the time Social media will post nothing but good stuffs. As an OFW we have this “pride” to show our food trips, travel here and there… but rarely our struggles. (hats off those who are real!) What happens when we show the “good kuno/ abundant life daw” is that people back home (not all though) tend to believe that money is as easy as 1-2-3. When we go home during our vacation – we seemed to be tagged as walking banks. When in “fact” #WhatsOnOurMind at week 2 or 3 is – “we want to go back”! hahah #relateka if you know what I mean… (ni hubas na! lol)

Sorry to break this – we may get times 12/13 or 15 of our currency – but we also spend the country’s currency which basically almost similar or more to what we spend if we are in Pinas. So to some (not to all) – because I knew of some families who just keep on asking this and that and this and that – and the list continues . . . – PLEASE! Be considerate! 

Also, ask how are you? – he/she may answer I’m good/okay – but stay sensitive and listen (or read since its mostly through FB messenger) . . . a little care goes a long way. Plus a THANK YOU whenever you receive the allotment for the month will also bring us a smile. 🙂 #NagpapakatotooLang #BeTrulySensitive #ALittleCareALittleLove

 

 

Three: Filipinos’ Crab Mentality

This may sound negative, but indeed that mentality is evident in a place that requires survival. For 10 years I have seen this mentality inside and outside a Filipino community at work (both here in UAE and even in the Philippines). Sadly it is worst in the international playing fields. Again – it’s not for all. I still find kind hearted ones.

Another encounter with this “crab mentality” thought is when you walk into a high-end store in the the malls – and Ate/Kuya Kabayan is the sales person – they tend to greet only the foreigners. Showing off their best smiles and greetings. But if you are a kabayan – it seemed like you don’t exist 🙁 . Sad! A personal experience that Kokobear and I had was when we went to a steak restaurant – when the server puts us on the waiting list but entertained the foreigner who came late. (ooppps – no they didn’t have reservations). And yes we argued and called the manager. I hope it serves as a lesson.

Up to this day, I still experience it. But somehow I have been a little considerate. Patience and understanding will still come handy. 🙂 Of course lots of prayer on the side too! #LordForgiveMe #AskAreYouOkayKuyaOrAte? 

 

 

 

Four: Family is always a Priority

At the end of the day, family will always be a priority. To be honest, there is a security in my heart that no matter how far I am with them – love and trust is there. Personally I only chat with them most of the time. A good morning, how are you and a few pictures sharing.  True I have been busy with community life – but never ever did I forget to raise them in my prayers and in my heart they are my top priority. After all being an OFW started because I want to help my family. #ILoveYouTheBELTS #ILoveYouKokobear

 

 

Five: Kabayan is Single (daw)

Another top of the list sadly OFW life reality. . . There’s been quiet a big number of broken families because Kabayan (both male/female) is “single daw”. It’s hard to identify who is who. It’s hard to trust and it’s hard to “kalas” once you are deeply in love. Judging them will not make us better… I guess it is all up to that person’s conscience and integrity on how he/she brings himself or herself in the public. 

A sad story in fact is I have known a few people who is inside the community (religious/church based) that claims to be one – but they aren’t.  I have to mention though that I appreciate them being inside the community – because somehow a part of them knows that they need constant reminder of God’s teachings. I hope that with God’s grace and the Holy Spirit will enlighten them.

 


Dear Kabayan,

Your wife/husband and children are waiting for you. Show up and be honest. Have faith that with God, all temptations will be broken. Stay close with Him. God bless! – JM


 

 

Six: Leaving home for the —nth time – is always 💔 heartbreaking

Ten years means nine or eight times of opportunity to be back home (for a month’s vacation) and every single time is heartbreaking. It never cease to end… You shed tears whenever its time to say our goodbyes. Even while typing this part of the post makes me teary eyed. It’s always a hard time. But we keep on fighting, we keep on surviving. Thank Lord for that! This is hats off to all other OFWs who have gone long more than me, I know how you feel. #IFeelYou #ThatFeeling #AirportJitters

 

 

 

Seven: A Community will help you get through tough times

I realized that not all people are meant for community life. Some realize that they need it a bit later, some tried and stopped. Some tried, stop, tried again and stayed. As for me, a year later when I arrived in Abu Dhabi – I know I am meant for this community life. Nine years later – with God’s grace I am still here. The Lord has kept me grounded by ebing a part of this beautiful group of diverse lovable & unlovable creatures 😀 . Community lifeagain is not an easy journey. This is where your Loving God and Loving they neighbor following thy commandments are bring tested! When all has been said and done – I still find myself in this community of sinners claiming to be better. Being inside the community doesn’t mean you are a saint – in fact it means you are a sinner – willing to change for God. And through all the hardship – it made me appreciate life that CFFL has given me people, teachings and encounters with God worth keeping and sharing. #CommunityLifeIsLove #ItsMoreFun #TrueChristianTestIsHere

 

 

Eight: Love life can come in many shapes & forms 💚

Love often is defined for family & to someone special. But being away from home and being an OFW + being a part of God’s community through CFFL, I found out that love comes in many forms and shapes. Love for family, love for your GG (God’s Gift: husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend) is just the base. In my part a new found love has grown too. Love for my FAITH, love for neighbors (including strangers!), love for what actually matters)

*Love for faith – If I didn’t join the community, I guess I will be swayed with another religion. Not knowing exactly which is which. But with this eye-opener – I am solid and secure with God and with where I am as a Catholic.

*Love for neighbors – Second greatest commandment. Practices, tested and survived! Not claiming to be perfect – but hey I know I have become better… What  I am practicing now too is – loving strangers & the poor (not just materially but those of spirit). They too are God’s people!

#LoveWhatMatters #TheOtherFacesOfLove

 

 

 

Nine: Patience is tested with Patience

When you pray to God, Lord – please give me patience for my work, for my boss, for my workmates etc… God is actually answering you! He answers you with more test on patience! This realization just came in to me in 2015. When I was tested to the highest level and realize that I shouldn’t pray that my ____ change. With God’s grace – my ___ didn’t change, instead I did! #IkawTalagaLord! #PatiencePaMore #LovePaMore #TestPaMore

 

 

Ten: God is never away.

No explanation needed. Amen-Amen to this! He is with me. He is with us at all times and anywhere. Everywhere!

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Related Story: My first blog entry as OFW.

 

What about you?
Are you an OFW?
Which of these lessons resonate so well to you?
Any other additional lessons? Feel free to share it in the comments…

 

JM Kayne, signing in on my 10th year here in the UAE!

 

God bless us all,

 

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Let’s Get Social 💚

Let’s get social.

It’s time to run down this blog’s social media network.

I have created this blog post for an easier guide and provide a one page for all the links of my social media accounts. So let’s dive in!

 

 

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On Honesty & Dishonesty (Transpo Edition)

On Honesty & Dishonesty (Transpo Edition)

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This is a long overdue blog post. I’ve intended to publish this while I was still in Cebu. It’s actually a short sharing on #Honesty & #Dishonesty in these five (5) types of transportation in the Philippines.

 

  • TAXI  – LTFRB set a new calibration scheme for taxis in Cebu. That is a 40 PHP flag down, an additional 13.50 PHP for every kilometer and 2 PHP running for every two (2) minutes waiting in a traffic. This set up though is only applicable if the taxi franchise has calibrated the new meter and has installed the new requirements before using this fare format. As I sat on the taxi and noticed that it has updated with the new system, I asked the driver; (in Cebuano) So, kumusta man ning bag-ong scheme bai? How’s this new scheme bai? (bai – is like “bro”) He said this idea is better for both the driver and the taxi franchise owner, but a bigger expense for the passenger. In fact over the past weeks, his personal experience is that the number of passenger is lower than expected. Nevertheless, he is expecting it to pick up and the riding public will eventually get used to it… Sad for the passenger, better for them. An #honest answer!

 

  • TRICYCLE  – My house to Gaisano Fiesta Mall will take 15-20 minutes by tricycle (it’s a motorcycle with an attached cart that can accommodate 6-7 persons. #Honesty: Although I know that the fare is 7 pesos, I have intentionally asked again. He said 7 PHP. #Dishonesty 🙁 On the way back, I rode another tricycle, didn’t ask this time and gave the 10 PHP coin, only to end up receiving 2 PHP change. I was surprised but can’t complain because I paid as I went down from the tricycle and it went off fast.

 

  • TRISIKAD – Our neighborhood takes around 10-15 minutes walk from the highway to our house. Trisikad makes it shorter. My cousin who visited us for the first time took the “trisikad” (it’s a bicycle that has a cart that can carry 2-3 persons in one round. It’s one way fare is 5 PHP per person. But as he came to the pick up point, there was no other passenger, he was alone and took the trisikad. The driver seemed to recognize that he is a first timer –  took advantage and asked for 20 PHP!!!!!! #Dishonesty 🙁

 

  • JEEPNEY – This time, let’s talk about the #honesty that a passenger abides by pure honesty and conscience. Majority of the people in the Philippines have been truthful and trustworthy that they are giving the fare. Of course, some might do the tricks [#dishonest 🙁 passengers!] but I want to emphasize more on the veracious act all Filipinos riding a jeepney. I’ve been outside the country for almost a decade and yet this honest system still works! Hats off to all of those who are reputable and truthful! 🙂 

 

  • UBER + GRAB – It is given that using GRAB or UBER will cost more than a taxi. So most drivers tend to choose and sometimes will not take your booking if its out of their way… What my personal experience on the other hand is an #honest driver who willingly explained to me and my friend on the ins and outs of becoming a GRAB/UBER driver (even though his place is north while ours is going south) … Another honest and alarming thought he shared too is that it is a fact that both companies have made Cebu more congested and traffic! 🙁 

 

So this post resurrected because of my current encounter here in Dubai. 

I went out to meet a friend…

To commute in Dubai means you need to take the bus, the taxi and the metro. As I draft this, the dark side has been tempting my mind to use the Silver* card (for the train/metro) but ride in the Gold* cabin. I actually have both and because community service events are way too far from our location, Kokobear and I have intentionally purchased the Gold card for long train minutes or hour/s as applicable. Anyway, of course; “I fought that thought” and did the right thing.

Now I took the taxi going to the first metro stop (@JLT Station) because I’m a bit out of schedule. Took a cab and asked him to drop me to JLT. A couple of minutes before reaching the destination, his meter broke… He didn’t panic, neither do I. He called someone over the phone and although I didn’t understand the whole convo, I know he was asking the cost. As we reach the station, I gave the fare and he was ready with his change. He charged me 16/- AED. I stopped and asked 16? His face changed – a bit worried I supposed. Yes, my friend told me so, he answered. I smiled. Gave him an additional 2 AED, I think it’s 18. Here, thank you for your honesty! I responded and got off.

 

This simple encounter, made me smile and has reaffirmed my trust to the honesty of humanity. Not that I don’t have, but just a concrete example here.
Praise God for that! 🙏

 

Be blessed & be God’s blessings!

 

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*Dubai Metro (NOL Card) has color coding metro and bus cards, it has blue, red, silver and gold. Although majority uses Silver – for the general public and Gold – a special cabin that has lesser passenger because it costs double than the regular fare with §the silver card.

Book Exchange – Fun Project

Hello Everyone! 😊

We’re looking for people to participate in a book exchange. You can be anywhere in the world. All you have to do is buy your favorite book (just one) and send it to a stranger (I’ll send you their details in a private message).

You will receive a maximum of 36 books back to you, from people around the world, for you to keep!

If you’d like to be a part of this fun exchange, just comment ‘IN’ below and I’ll send you all the details!

The cool part is that this will go across borders so you and the people sending you books can be from any part of the world (that is, if they have Facebook).

 

#BookExchange
#FunProject
#LetsReadMore
#SavetheCulture
#BookWorms
#JMKayneJoinsBookExchangeProject

 

Let’s do this! Enjoy~

Be blessed and be God’s blessings!

 

 

 


Disclaimer: I am not the one who started this. I just find this opportunity exciting and so I extended this invitation from Facebook to my blog (here). And why not?!? 🙂 Hope you enjoy it and hopefully you also get at least one or more!!! 

Haiku

Haiku

– Haiku –

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Haiku” is a traditional form of Japanese poetry. Haiku poems consist of 3 lines. The first and last lines of a Haiku have 5 syllables and the middle line has 7 syllables. The lines rarely rhyme.


This is another side of me. Way – way back in High school I love writing poems. I guess it comes with the fact that when you’re young, you tend to be “emo” and romantic. Thus topics of poetry on love and relationship comes easy. It has been a decade (or more) that I haven’t written a poem. Not until today! 🙂 It is when I listened to one of my favorite podcast – Happier by Gretchen Ruben that my “poetic soul” comes alive! . . . They were talking about creating a HAIKU! And so this is my take on it,  🙂 therefore I’ll be making this a regular column and so the Haiku Project will be popping around every now and then. 😀

Here’s the first one. 

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We create our plan,

When completed, He answers.

His time is perfect.

 

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#Haiku #HaikuProject #IamJMKayne

DIY – Printable Creative Calendar (Luggage bag style)

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I always enjoy creating something and as I browse Pinterest, there’s been quiet a lot of inspiration… This time I stumbled to this DIY Calendar using bag tags! 😀 So I created my version here.  Wanna use it? Follow the below guide. 

Instructions:

1. Download the pdf file

  • If the font doesn’t match, and you would like to use the same – it is called Nexa Rust Slab. Download it on 1001fonts.com/nexa-rust-font

2. Print all pages.

  • Printing pages 2 – 11 is one set of the 12 months & 2 sets of numbers.
  • You may use a normal bond paper or a bit thicker one 
  • Optional: Laminate each tags for it to be stronger & can can last longer.

3. Get a photo frame or any solid /cork board 

  • Photo frames or solid/cork board or whatever material you can think of… where you can tie or add a hook to it, to which you can hang the tags! (just like mine below)
  • Use a pin, thread or a ribbon to tie them as per the picture.
  • Arrange and feel free to add some aesthetics.
Well, all you have to do is print it out and apply your creative way of presenting it. Enjoy! 🙂

 

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This is an alternative to your classic calendar at home or in the office. This DIY printable creative calendar in a luggage tag design will give you the authority to style it the way you want. Of course you can re-create it and DO IT YOURSELF… But if you love this design, then GET IT NOW!

#ShopJMKayne #DIYCalendar

 

To purchase, go my Facebook Page & let’s talk. 🙂

 

 Here’s how I did mine 🙂 

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Be blessed and be God’s blessings!

 

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CFFL #TVM19 Released!

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This issue’s cover is designed by Bro. Gilbert Sioson of CFFL Sharjah.

Note: Starting this issue, I will be sharing the cover of CFFL – The Vineyard Magazine and recognize the talented people behind each issue’s cover. For the past issues’ covers, click here > TVM issues # 01 – 18 covers. Also, visit and like like, thumbs, up, vote icon our Facebook Page as well. 🙂 Finally, I’ll also put on my letter, the “Editor’s Note” too!


#TVM19

– Editor’s Note –

 

I have been out of the country for the past five (5) months, in fact I missed the Destined for Greatness Echo conference. I was back home in Cebu right before New Year and I was a spectator of all the events happening inside the community via social media. Even though I was there, I see to it to always take a glimpse of what are the current teachings and happenings – – – to – of course use them to be a part for this issue.  I have to mention though that #TVM19 was supposed to be released during our June CFFL 37th Anniversary Sportsfest, but due to lack of entries it is moved this month of August (now Sept for LP schedule). Praise God we made it!

Another important announcement too, is that from this year, we are releasing the issues every National GA. Therefore – expect 3 issues per year from March – which is usually our Echo Conference season, June – anniversary month & finally November – which is the pastoral month.

In this issue, expect loads of photos from the past 3 conferences from HFL, SvFL & SFL ministries. Our Photo Gallery too has much more, plus the a special space for the successfully concluded IBC Meeting – to which we had the privilege to host.

Sharings, personal lesson learned and take homes, a movie review, a sister’s journey to becoming or being beyond 30, more poetry and simply the very core realization of being blessed beyond measure.

So, wait no more! Dig in and be inspired!

May God be praised.

 

 

Praying for you and your family!

 

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Sis JM Bacus – Chavez

 

 

 

 

Get your CFFLTheVineyardMagazine #TVM19 copies from your servants!